I could not let today go by without a post. I am not a Vday hater nor a Vday enthusiast. I think today, like every other day, will win or fail based on what expectations you have for the day.
For me, the day has been historically disappointing. The most tragic of all being my Senior year of high school. I was in Civics class and found out that my "best friend" was sleeping with my long-time boyfriend. I was expecting a great romantic dinner, a fabulous little something special, and sincere "I love you" from him. Instead, I spent that day plotting her death, getting all my stuff back from my Ex, and drinking heavily with my real best friends. From then on, I learned to expect nothing on Vday.
Some years have been fantastic, with all the trimmings a spoiled girl would love: dinner at a fancy restaurant, candlelit bath, sparkly jewelry, the whole package. Some years have been average. Some, like this one, will be uncelebrated. But all of those things are ok because my expectations are adjusted accordingly. It makes all the difference.
I expected a non-committal "Happy Valentines Day" text from "The Man". That's what I got. I expected an inappropriate, porn related series of texts from Fireman. That's what I got. I am ok with both of those because it is what I expected. It's just much easier that way.
For me, the day has been historically disappointing. The most tragic of all being my Senior year of high school. I was in Civics class and found out that my "best friend" was sleeping with my long-time boyfriend. I was expecting a great romantic dinner, a fabulous little something special, and sincere "I love you" from him. Instead, I spent that day plotting her death, getting all my stuff back from my Ex, and drinking heavily with my real best friends. From then on, I learned to expect nothing on Vday.
Some years have been fantastic, with all the trimmings a spoiled girl would love: dinner at a fancy restaurant, candlelit bath, sparkly jewelry, the whole package. Some years have been average. Some, like this one, will be uncelebrated. But all of those things are ok because my expectations are adjusted accordingly. It makes all the difference.
I expected a non-committal "Happy Valentines Day" text from "The Man". That's what I got. I expected an inappropriate, porn related series of texts from Fireman. That's what I got. I am ok with both of those because it is what I expected. It's just much easier that way.
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